Financial Planning

Recently, I wanted to stick on this principle: satisfy yourself by spending the money you earned, rather than spend it to others... significantly selfish, but I'm tired of having responsible to other's financial problem especially when I'm not the right person to be accountable of. I know that I have better living and job, but I'm not a millionaire!! I know that I can make use the benefits of government servant to apply loans, but who can give me the assurance that the person will pay the monthly payment, whilst legally, (stated in the contract of agreement) I'm the person that should pay??? If the person is being honest though, what if, something bad happened to the person, for example death (sorry, but I'm not praying for it). Spend wisely, spend with what you have in the pocket, if you can't afford of what you want, then save, avoid loans!!! But if you really have to (the loan thingy..) be responsible and make sure you can settle the monthly payment, don't be the burden of someone else..

Writing Therapy

In less than a minute I type the above title, there's an email coming with the subject that really makes me 'haaa... this is what i need'.

Kenapa Kita Boleh Jadi Marah??

Marah datang dari perasaam atau emosi. Bila kita marah emosi telah menguasai pemikiran kita sehingga aspek pemikiran dan psikomotor (gerak anggota) tidak dapat dikawal lagi. Pada ketika itu gerak geri kita secara automatik akan akur kepada arahan emosi misalnya muka kita jadi merah - darah naik kemuka kata orang - mata dibeliakkan, bibir digetap atau mulut ternganga dan suara meninggi. Bila marah sudah sampai ke tahap melampau, kaki dan tangan kita juga turut bertindak secara spontan dan agresif seperti menendang atau
menyepak, menghempas barang-barang di hadapan mata dll sehingga kita boleh bertindak seperti orang tidak siuman. Maki hamun dan sumpah seranah memang perkara biasa dilakukan oleh mereka yang marah secara melampau !

Kenapa kita boleh jadi marah ?
Ada beberapa perkara yang boleh menyebabkannya.

Pertama kita jadi marah bila emosi kita sudah tersentuh. Oleh itu mereka yang emosional atau cepat terasa akan menjadi cepat marah bila mendapati emosi mereka sudah terganggu. Contohnya kita akan merasa tersentuh bila ada orang menuduh kita melakukan sesuatu yang pada pendapat kita, kita tidak melakukannya. Emosi kita akan terganggu bila dituduh yang bukan-bukan pada perasaan kita.

Kedua, kita boleh menjadi marah bila kita dicabar secara lansung atau tidak. Merasa marah akibat dicabar boleh dianggap sebagai naluri (instinct) manusia. Misalnya seorang suami marahkan isterinya yang tidak menurut perintahnya. Di sini dia merasa tercabar kerana kedudukannya sebagai suami sudah tergugat.

Ketiga, marah juga boleh berlaku akibat fenomena alam. Kita mungkin marah bila kereta kita rosak di tengah jalan atau sesuatu yang berlaku di luar perhitungan kita.

Ada banyak lagi perkara yang boleh mengakibatkan kita menjadi marah. Semuanya terjadi akibat emosi kita sudah tersentuh. Mereka yang cepat marah atau naik angin kata orang - dipanggil panas baran. Orang yang panas baran akan cepat melenting dan marah-marah sehingga di luar kawalan.

Bagaimana kita mengatasi perasan marah ?
Sebenarnya oleh sebab marah itu datang dari emosi atau perasaan, ia akan dapat diatasi dengan mudah jika kita cukup bersedia. Yang paling utama kita perlulah dapat mengawal emosi dengan sempurna. Bila kita sudah merasa nak marah, cepat-cepatlah alihkan fokus kita ke otak - jangan biarkan emosi mengawal diri.

Dengan cara berfikir melalui otak - bukan melayan perasaan , emosi kita akan dapat dikawal dan seterusnya boleh mengurangkan rasa marah kita. Proses ini dalam psikologi dipanggil sebagai "cognitive factor". Mereka yang dapat dipengaruhi oleh emosi disebut sebagai "emotivist" Hanya dengan berfikir secara teratur saja kita akan menjadi rasional.

Ada beberapa cara bagaimana kita boleh mengatasi perasaan marah:

1) Ahli psikologi menyarankan bila kita merasa nak marah, cubalah renung kuku ibu jari tangan kita kira-kira 2 minit. Dengan cara itu kita akan dapat mengubah fokus dari emosi ke pemikiran.

2) Ada pula ahli psikologi yang mencadangkan supaya kita membilang 1,2,3,4,5......sehingga perasaan kita yang tegang itu menjadi kendur.

3) Ketika perasaan marah sudah menguasai diri, cubalah bawa tersenyum kita hendak mengorak senyuman ketika sedang marah; tapi tidak mustahil kita mampu melakukannya jika dicuba.

4) Jika anda beragama Islam perkara di bawah ini mungkin boleh menolong:
1. Bawa beristighafar atau mengucap berulang kali.

2. Baca mana-mana ayat al-Quran yang kita tahu terutama surah an-Nas

3. Ambil wuduk (jika mampu)

4. Solat sunat (jika perlu)

Semua cara di atas bertujuan untuk memindahkan fokus kita dari emosi ke pemikiran. Bila pemikiran kita sudah berjaya mengawal emosi, insyaallah perasaan marah kita akan reda dan seterusnya hilang. Biarlah pemikiran (cognitive) menguasai diri kita - bukan emosi !!

Selamat mencuba.

I'm trying to transfer my focus from emotion to cognitive thinking right now. I don't know why I'm being emotional today, the thing that triggers my anger is just a tiny matter, but as usual, I will just keep it to myself, let it be... I don't want to be the hot-tempered type of girl just the same reason I hate others acting like it. Probably.. I miss hubby.. called him last nite @ Toyoko Inn at Kyoto *sigh* can't wait till Sunday...

New Life Begins...

After a year waiting, the time has come... I'll be writing a new chapter of my life starting next month. Dunno what to say: happy, yet sad.. gonna meet new colleagues (will they'll be caring as I had currently?? always making me laughs, eventually always offer their shoulder when I'm in need) , new boss (Am not expecting better, just preparing myself for the worst), new working environment altho not at the new place for me.. **sigh**

I don't know how to start when too many things to be settled. Then, this morning, the chief clerk called me, requesting for my address and hp number. At least, 2 things settled : 1-shipping thingy 2-flight tickets. I'm really relieved!!

GSC Alamanda

Free tickets were offered! Yea! You can watch movies for free from 29 March to 2 April (sorry again for the late posting kekeke). The movies were “Alvin and the Chipmunks”, “The Golden Compass”, “National Treasure”, “Mr Magorium’s Wonder Emporium”, “Anak Halal (Malay)”, “Impak Maksima (Malay)”, “Om Shanti Om (Hindi)” and “CJ7 (Chinese)”. All you have to do is print out this coupon below:

Each coupon only valid for two tickets and each person can have four tickets. Hubby printed out 5 coupons, we used 2 coupons watching the Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium:

1 coupon we gave to irah & family for Alvin & The Chipmunks.

Brands Outlet Sale (Backdated Post)

Date: 29th March, 2008

Place: The Curve

Objectives: To shop for Arwen's wardrobe

Carter's 2 pc cotton pajama set : Yellow top with embroided shining sun + small floral printed long pants

My Kids 2 pc Baby -T set : white top with printed butterfly on the glittering rainbow with floral printed short pants

Carter's Longsleeves turqoise dress - wear with white leggings (modified from Arwen's newborn footed pants)


This is Arwen's birthday wear - sleeveless white top, harmonizes with the jeans below

Gymboree blue jeans with small flower embroidery, added with red button and red/white striped ribbon.

Feeling guilty of shopping only for the daughter, with the limited times, I managed to grab this Disney's Pirates of The Caribbean T-Shirt for Anaqin.

The price range for all of the above is only MYR 10 - MYR 19.90 each!!!

Fridge Magnets

Tadaaa.... presenting, our fridge magnets collections.. some we bought, some are gifts from friends, families and there're fews from organisations/companies..



Let me recall the origins of them all:

• The latest is from yana - the strawberry (Cameron Highlands)


• Also latest is the transportation learning set (the Van, Jet and the alphabets in blue box) - free gift for Anaqin's Dutch Lady 123 milk chocolate flavour.


• The koala is from Dilla & Leman - gift from their honeymoon to Australia


• The Panda & chinese traditional wear bought by Hubby during his bisness trip to China.


• The couple wearing traditional wear is from Non during her holiday trip to Korea.


• The Osaka Akuarium (Japan) from Weld during his bisnes trip to Japan.


• The old building of vietnam from Safran.


• The Hello Kitty picture frame - from McD maybe??? can't remember


• The picture frame train - from Enfa Mama Club


• Fews from our Cuti-cuti Malaysia holiday trip - Langkawi, Genting Highlands, Penang, Melaka, Sabah, Akuaria KLCC, Awana Kijal Terengganu, Pulai Desaru Resort,

p/s I can't remember where was hubby bought the butterfly ;-p

These are the alphabets bear from McD... anyone have other alphabets so that we could change?? we have: 1 A, 1 B, 3 Ds, 2 Fs, 1 G, 1 P, 2 Rs, 1 U, 1 V, 1 W, 1 X, & 1 Y

searching for: C, E, H, I, J, K, L, M, N, O, Q, S, T, Z (whoaaahhh... so many to go!!!)

Updates on souvenir's key chain

Bandung - received recently from non

Universal Studio Japan - from hubby's colleague

Korea - hubby's colleague

The Japan & Korea are not key-chain actually... it's the thing that most people especially ladies hung on their mobile. (What is that thing's name huh??)

Italiano Lunch @ Pizza Hut

Date: 29th March (sorry for the backdated post)
Place: Alamanda, Putrajaya

The menu:
Lunch Express - Express Combo 5 consists of :
1 Sensasi Delight Pizza (our choice of Hawaiian Beef upgraded with stuffed crust)
1 Regular Sesasi Delight Pasta (Hubby's choice of Carbonara Wonder Spaghetti)
1 Garlic Bread
2 Soup-of-the-Day
2 Glasses of Pepsi

1 Hut's Platter

1 Fresh Garden Salad for the Appetizer

1 iced milo for Anaqin but ended in Arwen's feeding bottle kekeke...

Anaqin with honey-dew chunk in his mouth

Anaqin was not in the mood for babahrazi

Lunch @ Kiku Zakura

Went to Mid Valley immediately after Arwen's immunisation.

Our lunch: Hubby's Tori Teriyaki, mine Sake Teriyaki (I'm addicted to salmon after finding out that it's one of the most beneficial food for my blood type)

The half-eaten Edamame & Agedashi dofu

The drinks: Hot Ocha for the parents and fresh mango juice for Anaqin.

View from our table

Arwen's 12mths immunisation

Date: 7th April, 2008
Place: Az-Zahrah Islamic Medical Centre

Curious Arwen of the whereabouts, whilst the brother as usual busy with his hp-game-playing.

After the injection... fuh... arwen only cry a little bit